Asking each other questions like, ‘How do you think it’s going?’ We call it a performance review, like the ones you have at work. Having said that, it’s not so great if the baby wakes her at night too. “I really hope that Viola will continue to want to sleep with us after Billie’s birth. It’s difficult to see exactly how many beds have been put together to make it. Their bedroom is on the top floor of their house, with large skylights and a huge bed that clearly shows they sleep together as a family. But all of a sudden, she felt safe and happy there.” The last time we were away I was close to taking her out of her American nursery school because it took her a lot longer to adjust than I thought was okay. At times, it’s been an uphill struggle to make sure she always feels safe wherever we are, but I also wouldn’t hesitate to fly home earlier if I sensed she wasn’t happy. I’ve spent a fair amount of time googling how best to make sure children thrive in changing environments. She sleeps in our bed at night, whether we’re travelling or not, so it’s the same every night, no matter where we are. When arrive at a new place, we go to a café I get coffee and she gets a babyccino. Fortunately, Viola is good at dealing with change and I’m good at making her comfortable, no matter where in the world we are. In the autumn of 2019, it was the fourth time we lived there. She’s signed up to a crèche in Los Angeles which she returns to when we’re there, in the same group and with the same children. On their recommendation, we have made sure that Viola is always in the same place for a minimum of six weeks. “We’ve been in close contact with the fantastic teachers at Viola’s nursery. Viola has started at the local nursery and her teachers fast become good sparring partners for Rillo. The many trips continue, but it works for them as a family and the starting point is now Denmark. But to imagine being completely on my own… I take my hat off to single parents.” I have my own routines when it’s just us and I love that too. But, logistically, I’ve been a semi single mum for long periods of time. “A third of the time was spent home alone without Lukas, a third travelling together, and the remaining time we were all at home. I was done travelling, but Lukas had to commute back and forth.” After Viola starts at day care and Lukas continues to have a fully booked calendar, family life switches between Denmark and abroad. We came home to Denmark when Viola was around seven months old. The day-to-day was scheduled to a fault, and we visited a new city almost every day. That was my overriding impression of becoming mother and being on a tour bus with 25 others. “We came home for Christmas and then left again for the second part of the tour, the Grammys and a subsequent European tour. We lived together with two friends, Muffe and Sigurd, who were doulas at Viola’s birth.”įive weeks after Viola was born, the family set off on the first leg of Lukas Graham’s US tour. He travelled a lot and we saw each other whenever we could. We had been going out for three years when I fell pregnant. We hadn’t even considered that people would put two and two together. I was pretty taken aback, but she told me that she had seen Lukas and I walk around with a yellow pregnancy journal. I was standing in a queue at a café and she looked down at my belly and congratulated me. I met Krista Bella, a private midwife, early on in my pregnancy. “My interest in living more holistically started when I was pregnant with Viola. Here she talks about maintaining calm wherever she is on the planet – and not least concerning her impending due date. Rillo Schwartz first became a mother at a time when her boyfriend, Lukas Forchhammer, was taking over the world with his band.
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